Living with couples who don't know each other about their likes and dislikes is shown as a cause of competition and ending in conflict.

Based on the life he lived with his wife, Mrs. Mukarubi Oliva, Mutaganzwa Samuel says he has changed, saying that for a marriage to be strong it requires knowing two important habits.

“The first habit is what he/she likes because you love each other. The second habit is the one he/she hates because it can change your relationship. After all, you are going to be together for the rest of your life and you used to talk to each other like Cherie, chou... but she/he returned home to do his/her stuff and you do your own. (...) However, if they are going to be together for the rest of their lives, some things will go through they like. Sometimes a person may like to oversleep and work while he/she wakes up; it’s a bad habit but some people do it! Some like to ignore domestic work and not do it... but if your partner doesn't like it, advise each other," he disclosed.

In addition, Mutaganzwa said "If this does not happen, there will be conflicts because when people disagree on the functioning and development of their home, there will be competitions that can lead to fights, arguments that do not work because they are not on the same page. Because the house is built by two people who work together to put their things together and learn to apologize and forgive each other."

He says this is what helped him when he began his journey to change after decades of abuse by his wife, Mrs. Mukarubibi.

"I didn't find anything difficult to change... I was able to see what my partner hated, and it is what I used to care about in what they taught us because of what we were fighting for, I knew it because he told me I could have sex with others. (...) I told her I wouldn't repeat it, (...) and "You won't see me go to Samuel's house, think that I've gone to sleep there! These things come out of you and I will not have sex with others again. You have your rights, but give me mine, understand that I am going to do a job that will benefit the family. "

 “She understands it and I do what she wants. Now we have progressed because there are domestic animals, there is production, the children are studying, I pay my family's health insurance on time and I have already paid it for 2024-2025... When I look at all the years I had spent in conflict, I thank God that I have changed, “Mutaganzwa added

Mrs. Mukarubibi verifies that her husband has changed after being taught by the Rwanda Women's Network.

"He has changed! But the way you see it now, I was going maddened due to my husband because he hasn't given me peace since we got married. He started hitting me when I was young because we got married when I was 18, he was older than me many years," she stated.

“The income he earned, the domestic animals, the production ...belonged to him, the bananas farm I have never touched. When we argued, I was hit and abused and always felt hurt in my heart. Mrs. Mireille taught us so that we could breathe in our hearts... she gave us homework for learning. We reached the end of the training and lived together peacefully, it's slowly by slowly,” she added.

Mrs. Mukarubibi wondered how she would grow old in the conflict, saying that her husband's transformation would make her grow old peacefully.

“What he was doing was bothering me, he stopped it, and what I was doing was bothering him, I stopped it. The violence touched my heart I don't have it anymore because I was always sad, I had sorrow in my heart,” she highlighted.

They were always wondering about their future, she testifies that has become a thing of the past, especially since they were taught how to behave when a problem arises that would bring back conflict between them. Even that is assisted by knowing her husband and accepting his behavior so that she knows how to treat him and avoid conflicts.

She emphasizes that to know each other helps them to decide how to behave in their home, which they had never done before and during their marriage.