These women   also s pointed out that there are even some who quit their households because of being deprived of their rights

In an interview with Rukundo Emmanuel, reporter of Isango Star in the southern province, one said: “Even in Nyaruguru, men go out and watch porno videos and when they get home that's what they want to do, they don't want discussion about that, instead force you for sexual intercourse’’.

Another said:” If you refuse, he will beat you! The people  who come for  intervention asking what’s going  on here, as  a  woman  I  fear revealing the matter, this creates endless conflicts, there is a constant misunderstanding, the  issue  is  never  resolved’’

These women also pointed out that there are even some who quit their households because of being deprived of their rights, One said’’ to a  woman, it even reaches the extent of divorcing because  of sexual issues ‘’.

Another one said there are conflicts in my household, they sexually abuse us because there is no mutual consent for sexual intercourse, you’re forced for sex, may husband abuses me sexually, he abuses me sexually’’.

‘’Here in Nyaruguru men look into phones, he tells you to bend over for doggy style, then you refuse, you can’t accept ...you can’t allow, you’re are not an animal, then you start fighting,it also happens to me’’ refusing results into conflicts, the husband may beat you..’’.

Women wish for a special campaign against sexual violence which deprives them of right to sexual intercourse decision because it is common among married couples.

They say that sexual violence happens more often among married couples with better financial status as they can afford to buy internet bundles.

On the side of men, however, they don’t deny the accusations. One said women are  not  lying, it’s true, they are  abused sexually there is  a man  who  can watch pornographic videos about how  doggy style  is made if he  decides to  do that  with the wife, it can be an  issue’’

Brother  Wellars in charge of the program for the fight against gender-based violence in PROFEMMES TWESEHAMWE said that there are such cases.

He  ’’ We also face such cases, those pictures, porn videos, a man wants to go and practice what he has watched yet his partner is not familiar with that or has not consented to that, also results into conflicts or physical violence’’.

He said that they are ready to fight violence by using curricular which teaches that to people including those from Nyaruguru district.

Wellars  said’’ I would  say  that  those  are consequences  of development, but we  are also  ready  to fight  against  that as  we  have  that in the  curricular with a clear  message, we  should  do what  is best for  our us  not  what will  destroy families’’

Umutoni  Aline, the  Managing Director in charge of family promotion and child protection in MIGEPROF, said that though there are some good families,  there are also others where the problems highlighted still exist, she stressed that it requires to join efforts in order to eradicate them.

Another  one  said’’ There are  some good families  but  there  are  others  who  are  still in the  dark doing some things  that  violate  the rights  of a member of the  family, whether  female  or male, however, when you  reveal the  problem, then  the  solution  will be found’’

Human rights organizations manifest that sexual intercourse between married couples both men and women have equal rights, therefore it should be done in harmony by mutual respect and everyone has the right to decide how it should be done.

Mental health experts report shows that unless measures are taken, apart from gender-based violence which further destabilizes women, they would give birth to children with mental illness and the number will rise to  20.5%, this also affects the development of the country as no one can serve the nation with hereditary diseases.

 Wrote by RUKUNDO Emmanuel, Edited by Donatha UWAJENEZA Translated by: GAKUBA Felix  Abduljabar