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Nyagatre: lack of knowledge makes some abusers do it unconsciously
Uwajeneza Donatha
Apr 24, 2024 - 11:04
Domestic conflict is a problem in Rwandan society leading to a lack of childcare, children dropping out of school, poverty in families, and even death. Abuse can occur unknowingly, even by the abuser, solely due to a lack of knowledge.
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Hakizimana Hamdun and his wife, Mrs. Nadia Kabaraho are among 106 residents of the Karangazi and Katabagemu sectors trained by the non-profit organization, RWAMREC in collaboration with Care International, to prevent domestic conflicts using technology and provide psychological and social. They are also supported in the movement of change on the principle of equality.
Hakizimana mentioned that he received help in understanding the principles of equality and harmony within his family. He and his wife are now happy because something has changed in their family after receiving this knowledge.
"Lessons taught us that if a family is living unhappily, it's because they're doing something wrong. We learned from our mistakes and changed our ways. Now, I started a men's union in our village of Gakoma and sharing what I have learned,” Hakizimana said.
"Examine yourself and think about your past actions, and what you did wrong. It is possible to abuse someone unknowingly or that person doesn't know that they have been abused by someone," Hakizimana added.
Mrs. Kabaraho Dina, the wife of Hakizimana, has also received 30 days of training and now she understands how to maintain a healthy domestic relationship. She said that avoids any sort of violence. She has admitted that after the training, she realized that she had been a victim without even knowing it
"I wasn't on my husband's account, but then my husband put me on it," she said, giving an example.
Mrs. Mukamyinka Madeilene, their neighbour, emphasized that Mrs. Kabaraho Dina and Hakizimana’s family is now exemplary in their area after they were always in conflict, and their home had no security. she said there were times when she stopped her children from playing in the neighbour’s home because she felt they would get into trouble.
"Her husband was very bad, and now look at him! He is an example among other men!” Mrs Mukamyinka said.
Nzabonimpa Venant; The Chairman of the Board at RWAMREC said that they train families on how to avoid family conflict but in early 2023, they came up with a new way to use technology.
"Training people where the country has reached requires trying new methods using technology, with the help of Care, they have installed programs in the phones of those we have trained, this method is productive, but not all people in conflict have these phones and the people are happy with it," Nzabonimpa said.
RWAMREC has trained over 37,000 men who are using their knowledge to bring about positive change in themselves and others.
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