Emmanuel has one wife and six children, living in Rwamagana District, Munyiginya Sector, Nyarubuye Cell, Mazinga Village. He started having disagreements with his wife, especially about property, after starting a family.

“I was evil…before, we didn’t talk the same, especially about the property because I felt it belonged to the man; a woman hadn't to touch it! I felt that I could sell the banana, the cow, and the goat without consulting her, and keep the money for myself. That's how caused our conflicts," he revealed.

Ms Uwimana Jeannette, a Twizerimana woman, says the conflict has deprived the children of their rights. “When the husband and wife do not agree with each other, even the children don't understand each other," she said. 
“We were given by those who called ‘abafashamyumvire’ that we are always in conflict, and they trained us so that we knew that we were abusing each other, without realizing it. The woman feels that she was right, and the man feels that he was right,” she added.

Twizeyimana stated that these behaviours are due to the way men are taught by their parents to live. But he transformed after training with the Rwanda women's network.

"In that time, we used to think a woman had no right to cut a banana from the banana field, so we thought that the property belonged to men," Twizerimana said.
 
“But now my wife has the right to the property because she is enough. She can cut a banana! She can sell a goat without asking me like when there's a problem, or a child is kicked out of school and I'm not there. She has the right to sell it and send the child to school or solve the problem at home. I feel no problem because my property and my wife, now we agree on it 100%,” he added.

Ms. Uwimana testified that they have transformed and become an example to others. "We were trained and helped to reach development. Before, we had conflicts and lived in Nyakatsi, but after we improved our understanding, we agreed on everything at home. We had a good relationship characterized by sharing, talking, and walking. It is a good thing that undermines the value of being a role model in the Cell," she started.

She added," We first treated the disease we had for ourselves, and now we are on a journey to cure others."

She mentioned that now they both discuss until they reach a common understanding, unlike before when everyone passed on their way, which slowed down the family's development.

"When my husband changed, he demonstrated to me from both sides, he taught me how to do it, I could offer an opinion and I would make a decision, and we would agree on it, saying that this is the most important thing," she said.

Twizerimana regrets the 15 years of conflict with Mrs. Jeannette.

Twizerinama says that when conflict is in the family, it slows down its development.  But now they are brought together to improve. He also says that they share for doing domestic work, even though they have grown children.

The fact that Twizeranama has changed after understanding the principle of equality and harmony, he said that he regrets lots in 15 years of conflict with his wife, Ms Jeannette.

 “If I had changed before, I would not have been in conflict; I would have reached a higher level now! Maybe I'd have a car, perhaps a motorcycle! But if you are in conflict you will achieve nothing. Because your achievements go...But when you agree with your wife, you wonder what happens, because you go through different ways and put it together, "Twizerimana said.

Ms Uwimana testifies that understanding gender equality and harmony helped them to leave the darkness to light.

she stated that "when you are not equal, you do not make progress, man and woman must feel the same". However, Equality and harmony result in the family's development and having well-educated children. She compares their old home to darkness, and the new one to light.