Many men often claim that there are no tips for women! Is that true? No, because many of them will find themselves in conflict with their partners when they devalue and silence them preventing them from expressing their opinions and making decisions at home, and the husband makes it for his wife.

Munyaneza Vedaste, who has been living in conflict with Mrs.Uwamahoro Sifa for a year, says that it left him a great lesson that the training he received from Aegis Trust was very useful for him because as a man he felt he was not advised by a woman and it can't deliver the positive thing.

Munyaneza said: “I have been through a lot, building a home requires being an example to others. (…) Some say that there is no advice for a woman, if you say that, he should go to his wife and ask her advice and see! This happened to me and I'm going to value it because we got 700,000 and I said, 'I'm going to buy a motorcycle with this money, so give it to someone to ride it.' At that time I thought, I told the woman that I was going to buy at least a motorcycle of six thousand or a million, then I would pay four thousand slowly and it will be mine later. 'Don't do it, I tell you,’ said the woman.”

"I waited for her and she told me that this money was for buying a motorbike... the motorbike crashes, it causes many accidents, you can buy it and the police took it because it hit someone, it has no documents... but let's see what we can find that will be useful for us in the future,” Munyaneza added.

" I felt it was fewer, I said, and ‘What would you do with it?  … She told me 'Let's find a plot and we will get it'. We were lucky enough to get it for six hundred thousand! It's now in the millions! I bought it because of the advice of a woman,” noticed by Munyaneza.

Munyaneza realized the value of his wife after buying the plot and hearing the story of his friend's motorcycle accident and subsequent auction.

He said, "Now that man is on the ground, but the plot is gaining and that's a woman's advice!"

Using another example, Munyaneza also said that he was advised by his wife to take the money they were supposed to pay their houseworker for raising their two-year-old child and use it to pay for pre-nursury school; where they will take care of him and give him knowledge.

"Now the child has grown up. He looks like he is five, but he is only two and a half years old. He is gaining skills. The little sickness he always had at Kanimba's Hospital, I had taken him everywhere for medicine, but it ended. Where he spent all day, he gained discipline like everyone else. These are tips given by a woman because women know that it is better at home than men," Munyaneza highlighted.

He says that a man who listens to his wife's advice achieves more and avoids conflicts between the couple.

Munyaneza mentioned, "I had never followed her advice before. But if I had followed it, that conflict would not have happened. The fact that we lived and are still together is also good because there are many people I converse with who argue for things that are less important than what we have."

"Being a man is not monopolizing the word, it's that you wouldn't want a wife because you would be self-sufficient. But if you analyze it, women can.

Munyaneza regrets that he never listened to the advice of his wife, Mrs. UwamahoroSifa. She asked him to analyze what people were saying to him and to find a solution to the problem together, but he refused. This refusal was the cause of their conflict.

Mrs. Uwamahoro mentioned that her husband's transformation was strengthened by the fact that he gave up some of the things that caused the conflict.

“If we were talking, I would say something to him and he wouldn't listen to me, and he ignored me. If there was a problem, he wouldn't let us talk about it, but, he would come and want me to listen to him, but now he sits down and we talk about it, tomorrow we will talk about this and this, that's what convinced me that he has changed,” She said.

Now she was happy to have a conversation with her husband. She said, "I feel like we are making progress! We sit down and discuss our projects, and we see that we achieved them. There is still much more to come, even though we haven't gone far yet."

She mentioned that in all her actions, she considers her family's growth, as she used to lack someone to exchange ideas with.

She also mentioned that men should understand that a woman is a partner, and marrying her does not mean giving up their pursuits to let it be done by women.

She said, "So they misunderstood, but a woman is a partner. If you're willing to bring a life partner, let her help you. Because if you didn't want her to help you, you wouldn't have brought her, as you were self-sufficient. But if you admit that you are not self-sufficient, then let her help you and humble yourself."

She testifies that when couples support each other and complement each other, they share and exchange ideas as if they were one body. According to Mrs. Uwamahoro, this culture benefits the family and prevents conflicts.