Munyaneza Vedaste, who lives in Nyamirambo sector, Rugarama village, Riba village, says that when he was young he grew up to become a man and he strives to achieve it. But the time explained to him when he found living in conflict with his wife, after three years of living together peacefully and helping each other in all their household chores.

He says that there are people who do not understand the meaning of being a man, which leads to conflicts within families. Although he grew up wanting to be a man, after being trained by the Aegis Trust he realized he didn't truly comprehend the concept.

He said, “Being a man I felt that it is to speak a word and became a rule at home, a guideline. If I say that this money is 10 thousand, I will give only three thousand to a wife, seven thousand is mine, it is the man's, and it’s me who worked for it. "

He mentioned that at that time, his wife was not allowed to express her opinion about how he, as a husband, uses his earnings.

"I used to tell him to shut up; I'm a man at home! If I come home, I can knock all I want because I'm a man at home! But when I was going to get married, someone told me, 'If you're going to get married, first know what you're going to do!' I did it. But where I was trained, I found what a man is. To be a man is action and thought. Being a man means agreeing with your wife, sitting down, and thinking about what is going to be done," Munyaneza said.

Munyaneza used the example of monthly household income to illustrate his point. He said: "Now how much it is, it will do this, you plan it, and then the month will end when you have already gotten what you will spend it. Then you do that thing and don't be a dictator, you hear the woman as you married her because she is not a woman for only sleeping with you, but she came for teaching and understanding each other. They say that there is no head of self-counselor; you bring a woman to give you advice.

Mrs. Uwamahoro mentioned that the training they received greatly benefited her husband. She said, "This training helped him a lot because I couldn't advise him to stop, but when we left the training, he used to refuse. I said to him, 'Aren't we there on the last day? Haven't you found a way to hear each other and make it work?'"

Mrs Uwamahoro stated the training they received greatly benefited her husband. She stated, "This training helped him a lot because I couldn't advise him to stop this but when we left [the training] he used to refuse, and I said to him 'Aren't we there the last day, haven't you found a way to hear each other and it's going well'?' '

She testifies that when a man understands the principle of equality and harmony, it helps the family a lot.

 “A man is the head of the family, so when he understands well the things, he knows how to take care of the members of the family. It would work better if a man heard it and a woman heard it because some women hate cooking or making the bed! But that doesn't happen here…,” she revealed.

On the side of the family, Mrs Uwamahoro added, "he was able to understand it and he is not saying that everything belongs to me because I'm a man, he can be humble, and I'm humble and we understand each other." So you can be calm in your mind because when you are safe you can think clearly. So, when you say something negatively, my mind seems to change immediately. But if you speak well, advise each other calmly, are at peace and everything you do will be successful."

Munyaneza emphasized that in order to have a strong home; one must understand harmony and recognize that there are no jobs exclusively reserved for men or women. Both should give advice, and there is no need to monopolize the word. This approach will help them live in peace.