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“I felt no one would contradict the decision I made," Niyonsenga regretted living in conflict with his wife
Uwajeneza Donatha
May 27, 2024 - 19:19
Niyonsenga Eric who lives in the Munyiginya sector, Bwana Cell, in Rwagahigi village, says that before understanding the principle of equality and harmony, he abused his wife and felt that no one would contradict him on the decision or the law he gave. However, after being trained, Niyonsenga and his wife, Mrs Isimbi Liziki only focus on their family's development.
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"I abused my wife, both by denying her rights and by allowing her to go to visit her parent." If she ignores it and does it, you feel like it's a war! You see that we are always in the fight without ending, “Niyonsenga said in an interview with Isango Star.
Based on an example of how he abused his wife, Mrs. Isimbi, Niyonsenga said: "If she wants to wear a short robe, I said: wear Kitenge! If you go here, you will dress this, she said 'I don't want'. I told her, I order, 'Wear this!' Or I order you not to go home [parents’ house] and you will go there this time! If there is a party and I block her, she will not go there and they will lose her. I realized that was the abuse I was doing to her. ”
Niyonsenga said it had a big impact on their family, causing them to feel stuck and unable to make progress.
‘We never discussed things related to being developed. We were always arguing... and years went by like that. We continued for 5 years until we understood we were going to die in it," he mentioned.
Starting the journey of transformation was due to a neighbor of Niyonsenga's friend, who divorced his wife due to a dispute.
"There was a neighbor of ours who lived like me and divorced his wife, so I said: 'If my fate will be the same as my friend's, what would I do? So I had the chance to hear the information that there is a training of people living in that way. I felt like I was going to collapse, I felt tired of that life, “Niyonsenga Eric revealed.
“We got there and began training. I felt like I was starting to feel liberated and learning something new... Note that a woman should have complete rights in her own home. She has property rights, rights to her own body, and rights everywhere else. I realized this because I hadn't known it before,” He added.
Mrs. Isimbi Liziki is convinced that her husband has changed, and they now work together and advise each other.
“We did the training and they taught us that when there is no harmony in the home, there will be no development. Without peace, you will achieve nothing. (...) We didn't change when we got there that day, because there were times when we went home with a bit of advice but nature rejected it. But we have been changed for 21 days,” she said.
In one of the difficult lessons, Mrs. Isimbi said: "We learned to ' Power together', that the family that has that Power together changes. I can get up and go to work, and he gets up and prepares the children for going to school. Because we do a restaurant, see the man who goes to the road, cooks, and brings the meals to feed the customers. We now work together and everyone can see that we have changed.”
In the eight years they lived together, only three are safe. Mrs. Isimbi and Niyonsenga testify that they have achieved a lot, including the expansion of their business and the construction of their house.
Niyonsenga says he regrets the time his family lived in conflict, admitting that it was because of the behavior and upbringing he learned from his parent.
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